Study abroad. International exchange. Erasmus. While all employ different verbiage, the key concept remains the same. Leaving one’s home, enrolling in a foreign university for a month, term, or year, hopping on a plane, and immersing oneself in the culture, language, and customs of an alien land. It can be scary. It can be rewarding beyond one’s wildest dreams. It can be tough. It will be tough. But the personal growth from such an experience will pay dividends that will remain for a lifetime. Arrive as you are, depart transformed.
I was extremely fortunate to be able to study abroad not once, but twice. As an International Business major, some form of exchange abroad, in addition to language study, is required. This was made even easier by the direct transfer of numerous credits, which facilitated my second trip. The wonderful individuals at Marquette, ICADE, and Loyola Andalucía helped make my dreams a reality, and for that, I’m eternally grateful. From Madrid in Spring 2013, to returning to Córdoba in Spring 2015, my intercambio español allowed the exploration of Spain focusing on two separate lifestyles, provinces, dialects, housing situations, and friendships. I can wholeheartedly say that I am a different person as a result of this year in total spent abroad.
As a result, I was able to give back by offering guidance to students interested in spending a semester in one of Marquette’s four exchange programs. As an informal advisor, I hope this forthcoming knowledge can be of use to anyone interested in the journey that is an international exchange. Onwards.
January 3, 2013. I departed for Madrid, with a layover in Munich, with nary an idea how the semester would pass. Fast forward to June 10, 2013, and I left back to Milwaukee. 2 years nearly to the original date, I would leave again for Córdoba. Here’s my take on the good, the bad, the ugly, the growth, how it shaped and is currently shaping my life, and advice I wished I knew before. Followed up with general insight for those jetting off, either physically, or mentally.
Madrid:
The good –
My roommates truly helped shape my experience. Through previous advice, I booked an apartment for 6 months on a whim, bank transfer et al. This piso ended up being Madrid’s version of the show The Real World. We were 10: 5 Spaniards, 2 French, 1 Italian, 1 Scot, and myself. Spanish was the primary language, although I spoke English with the Scot and one of the French nationals. This 10 bedroom 3 bathroom was my first experience with international roommates. As a result, not only did I learn to cook and improve massively my Spanish, but also this set a path for my following roommates in college. We would watch fútbol matches, go out, eat together, or just stay up and talk until late at night. I’m in contact with 2 of them still.
Before Madrid, my Spanish skills were at best okay. Language acquisition grew tenfold due to simply being in an environment where communication was done entirely in Spanish, picking up new words from television and the supermarket, and polishing my acento castellano. Although classes and classmates increased the amount of spoken English, simply by living in that environment, my language skills improved tremendously.
Madrid is a transit hub. Throughout the semester, I took advantage of international planes, trains, and automobiles to travel Europe. One dozen countries were visited, countless cheap flights purchased, and most of the weekends spent out of Spain. I also utilized the extensive bus connections to explore nearly all the provinces. Stories, experiences, delays, and growth abound, I learned that above all, traveling makes me happy. Due to the constant nature of country/province-hopping, I caught the travel bug. And this lone gain has made the most difference in my life going forward.
Study abroad will stretch your comfort zone. I was lucky to have a great base of friends and colleagues to help me assimilate to the culture and parents who were a text away. Luckily, not once did I feel homesick. Through the experience in Madrid, I became more confident in my abilities to handle anything on the road and even started solo traveling. This again marked an important event in my life. I can’t imagine life without solo travel. As a result, I re-defined career goals and discovered what was important in life – constant exploration, knowledge acquisition, and global relationships. I became more open, social, friendlier, assured, and energized. Studying abroad equipped me with the tools to converse with anyone about any topic, and this was even further developed in Córdoba. I became an ardent Real Madrid and never turned down a new experience. This developed a certain “we’ll figure it out later, just go forward” attitude that has served me well around the world.
ICADE was a ten-minute walk from my apartment and the classes weren’t challenging. All in English and primarily with Americans and a few other Europeans, the workload was small. Combined with only transferring credits, and the onus on high performance was off the table. As a result, we could all enjoy life without stressing over grades.
Madrid is a world-class city for art, nature and food. I visited several times the Prado and Reína Sofía, plus other small museums. I spent time alone in the parks and developed a greater appreciation for time alone. To be honest, I didn’t eat out frequently in Madrid, but this was more due to having less of an interest in food and more about seeing how many beers would be drunk at happy hour. The Quintessential Ugly American.
The bad/ugly:
I didn’t branch out nearly as much as I should have. Although my language skills improved, the majority of the time was spent with other Americans, both in class, and at night. I didn’t build many long-lasting relationships and certainly fewer with Europeans. English classes meant that my Spanish could have been better. I didn’t look into clubs/organizations and took zero advantage of cultural events in the city.
The majority of my nights were as follows: Tuesday beer pong at an Irish bar, Wednesday and Thursday clubbing, Friday – Sunday traveling. Lather, rinse, repeat. This sounds like it could be a schedule back home. For all intents-and-purposes, it was. Granted, my body could handle the continual cocktail of no sleep and partying then, but that would be impossible now. I would have changed this aspect to spending more time building relationships and taking advantage of cultural events, such as more Real Madrid matches, meetups, and taking advantage of living in a global city. I was young, dumb, headstrong, and easily persuaded by groupthink. This was grown out of, but really brought to life in Madrid.
Overall, my experience in Madrid was perfect for a clueless 20-year old who wanted to travel, grow, and explore. Slight downsides aside, I can’t remember ever feeling depressed or downtrodden. This love of Madrid led to me returning two years later to Córdoba, where my Spain experience truly bloomed.
Córdoba:
The good –
Where to start? Córdoba was my foray into Andalucía. The language, culture, attitude, and weather differed from Madrid. Córdoba is ten times smaller than Madrid and has a much homier feel to the city. Walkability is incredible and there was no need for public transportation. The campus was a 25 minute walk; the center only slightly less. Everywhere in town was under an hour on foot, even the outskirts. Combine cobblestone streets with endless sunshine and you have the recipe for bliss. As far as costs go, Spain is cheap. And Córdoba is much less expensive than Madrid. This facilitated dinners/lunches/breakfasts/drinks out on a consistent basis, with money left for travel.
My language skills improved immensely. The first few weeks were difficult, due to adjusting to the dialect, but everything clicked into place. My roommates and classmates spoke little or no English, which forced me to speak their native language. As a result, the accent, vocabulary, and general comprehension grew more than ever. I can commute with any Spanish speaker around the world and although it’s a bit rusty, my listening is almost perfect. The classes were more difficult but overall manageable, without excessive homework or tests. The few projects and presentations were not difficult, and made me step out of my comfort in the language. One comment from my Strategy professor, Emilio, really made me think. “Alec, you speak a purer Castellano than I do”.
Being a small town and university, everyone knows everyone else. I was involved from the second day in with the Erasmus program, and made lifelong memories and relationships. Events, travels, nightlife, and football matches came from this organization. I dove in head first and never looked back. The majority of my friends were European. My roommates were Extremeño and Almeriense, spoke no English, and loved flamenco, partying, and Real Madrid. Needless to say, we got along fantastically. I’m still in contact with one. Nights were spent on a rooftop with other Loyola students from around the world, talking, laughing, drinking, and telling stories. My apartment complex was almost entirely Erasmus students and the rent was cheaper than at Marquette. Although it’s cliché, life in Córdoba was perfect.
I did travel that semester, but in a more limited focus. By not having Friday classes, I would take solo day trips around the province of Córdoba and checked off visiting all 8 provinces in Andalucía. To name a few memories – attending the local fería in my roommates’ hometown and staying with his family, trusting in myself to handle day trips, a group voyage to Morocco, and an extended Central European jaunt complete with Blablacar delays, Soviet relics, and carb-loading. This trips were mainly solo, which really developed my love of independent travel. Overall, I grew immensely as an individual and took advantage of the opportunity to branch out to make friends with people from a variety of backgrounds, ethnicities, languages, and lifestyles.
In general, the lifestyle in Córdoba was bar none, the greatest I’ve ever been a part of. Lax class restrictions combined with gorgeous weather meant that the majority of my free time was spent outside in a park, at a restaurant, or wandering a nearby village. Everyone’s class schedule intertwined, meaning that we were all free the same nights and weekends. Every weekday was complete with socializing, relaxing together, and rarely being alone. Strong bonds were developed and our group turned into a family. Combine massive relationship-building with cheap food and drink, and a lifestyle second-to-none was established.
The bad/ugly:
Much of the same. I was never depressed or homesick. Although the first few weeks were tough with understanding the language, I worked at it and improved. The only blot was the apartment situation. Like Madrid, I booked one in advance. This was a mistake. My roommates and I did not get along and the apartment itself did not feel like home. I moved after a week to another place, where the stay lasted 2 days. This was due to the roof collapsing and needing to find alternative accommodation. I was upset that my second apartment was not spanish-speaking and was given a mulligan with the roof falling apart. Luckily, the management company took my words and found me a place with José and Juan. When I walked into the kitchen seeing first the pata de jamón, I knew I was home. Outside of a few travel missteps, nothing really bothered me.
Overall, the experiences in Madrid and Córdoba changed my life. No longer did I want to follow that boring routine of graduation-hometown stay-same friends-marriage-kids-retire. Life was to be lived through experiences and making connections. I wanted one full of travel, of knowledge, of discovery and exploration. Perpetual growth would be the standard, not some distant aspiration. I threw all my previous plans out the window and moved to Chicago, kept my international connections through being active in the local Couchsurfing community, and traveled whenever possible. This includes 3 continents; chock full of adventures that never would have happened had I stayed in the local bubble and not taken the step to study abroad not once, but twice. Arrive as you are, depart transformed. My life will be lived around the globe. I’ll be going back abroad for an MBA and hopefully staying – a serial expatriate. With an ever-expanding comfort zone and a palate for exotic foods, life is so appealing. All of these insights, without a doubt, would never have been internalized or conceptualized without the unforgettable experiences granted by studying abroad.
General advice/what I wish I knew:
Study abroad can be confusing. There’s tons of information to digest, let alone a new language and friends from different cultures. I prepared pretty well and learned on the go, but I do wish I had a better handle on the apartment hunt. I don’t recommend booking an apartment in advance. You could get lucky, but don’t bet on it. Take time to scout out properties and stay in a hostel for a week instead of needing to find accommodation in advance.
Learn the slang in advance and train your ear. This will save hours on trying to decipher local lexicon. I don’t care how hard the language is. Learn it and stop making excuses. In addition, always learn a few terms in the language of your travels. Hello, goodbye, thanks, yes, good day, and cheers will not only show you care, but will invite others to be more friendly.
Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. This experience will stretch your comfort zone. DO NOT stay motionless and refuse to speak the language, only have friends of your nationality, and live life as it would be back home. The richness of being abroad can only be uncovered by adjusting yourself to this new country. Mimic the eating schedule, master the dialect, gain the attitude and mannerisms, and become a local. Attempt to keep your life the same and suffer the consequences of no growth. Even better, pick a local football club to support and watch or attend matches. Have a local bar to frequent; becoming friends with the proprietors and patrons alike. This will enrich your experience and quicker acclimate you to the customs of wherever your temporary base is.
Get involved. In Spain, especially in smaller towns, Erasmus is more of a community than an organization. Be active and be known. You have this incredible chance to leave your mark on an entire university – do not leave that begging. Converse in languages that aren’t your native tongue.
Mess up. Fail. Get lost. Overpay or forget to book an airplane ticket. The best chances for learning come after mistakes, so don’t fear failure. No one cares if you miss a bus back – there will be another. No hostels open? Take a night bus somewhere. Alone and tired and anxious in a new city? Look for a local pub. Even if you travel solo, you’re never truly alone. Become comfortable constantly talking to strangers and adjust your mindset about the concept of friendship. Stay in hostels by yourself. Do things by yourself. You grow when you depend on yourself for whatever action is taking place. Studying abroad offers the chance of a fresh start, unlimited personal development, traveling, possible romance, and career shifts. With a little effort and awareness, all of the above is possible. I encourage solo activity and creating a base where your confidants are from different backgrounds. Enjoy the international environment and for the sake of all that is holy, branch out. You never know who you’ll meet, who you’ll become, or what you’ll learn. I’m so passionate about study abroad because of everything that it’s given me. Figure out who you want to become – it’s not easy – but take steps there on the path to self-actualization. Take the plunge and travel solo. Start small with a village or even daily activities and build up. You’ll move mountains. All in all, study abroad has entirely changed the course and direction of my life. And for that, I am forever grateful. Arrive as you are, depart transformed.